Yes, the saying normally goes, ‘What’s good for the Goose is good for the Gander.’ Goose refers to women and Gander refers to men; hence the reverse in the title. In either case, the saying means what is good for one is good for another.
My mom used to say, ‘If there’s such a thing as reincarnation, I want to come back as a man.’ I’d laugh, clueless to her thought process. Now that I’m older I know exactly why she said it.
Yes, we have a come a long way in regard to women’s rights. It’s true we have. However, there’s still so much ground that needs to be gained. It’s not just the big things. It’s the everyday tiny things that add up.
Here’s one: It’s OK if a man says something people don’t want to hear, or to even use cuss words. Yes, I’ve been known to drop the F Bomb on occasion. Trust me I am working on that. However, if a man says it, it’s OK and nothing is said or done about it. But if a woman does, it’s ‘inappropriate language.’ Really?
I love this quote by Bette Davis: ‘When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch.”
And this one by Eleanor Roosevelt: ‘Don’t call a woman a bitch. Call her an a#@-hole. It still gets the point across and it’s not sexist.
I have never really been someone who gets excited about gender inequality; however, there are lines. I really became aware of it when I saw a post on Facebook about the women’s suffrage movement. I do recall hearing in history class that women were jailed, but I never heard they were beaten – not only in jail but while walking in parade type settings. I wonder what students are being told about it today.
And then there’s the constant fight of losing pounds. I’m not one to look at a scale. It’s only a number. I work out regularly. I could use a bit more self-control when it comes to food. A good friends once said, ‘I came here (the earth plane) for the food.’ LOL
I get my weight when I’m at the doctor’s office. When looking at the obesity charts, why is it that men get to weigh more than women for the same height? We have more organs inside and some women have lots of muscle, which we all know weighs more than fat.
You know women were leaders of religion in the early days. Why did that change? Was it because men are generally stronger than women and therefore, became dominant? Who knows?
Women do have more of a voice today. And I’m sure that will continue to grow as we move forward. Only when the older generation (both women and men) and its beliefs die off will it happen. Some men walk around with an air about them, that they are entitled. Entitled to what, I ask?
Really, it’s just a mindset. I, we, don’t have to fall into it. Guess what else, according to the natural law of gender, each and every one of us has female and male traits within us.
Blessings of Peace and Love!
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.