FROM THE ETHERS
Get out of your head. Yes, you. Stop it, just stop. Better yet, stop caring what other people think of you; hence being in your head.
Obviously, this has been coming up in my life quite a bit lately. I am aware of it, but at times lose sight of it. I did catch myself today. I found myself thinking about a class I recently attended and how I should have let people know what happened in my instance. I’m not sure why I didn’t. Today, I said out loud to myself and perhaps the universe, ‘Stop it. Who really cares? Let it go, Lori.’ Knowing me though, I will say something the next time I see the teacher or not. We shall see if the opportunity presents itself. Here I go again – being in my head.
How many of you do this? Raise your hands peeps.
However, we do have to think – it’s a no-brainer. And at times it’s OK to be in our heads.
Backstory: My first staff writing job out of college was at a daily newspaper. One time I turned my story in and headed for home. About halfway there I realized that I forgot to add something to the story. I went back. Sure enough, my editor was working on the story. He was appreciative that I came back. One time being in my head worked for me and others. Did I beat myself up? No, I did not. I got the job done.
This blog initially came about when I spoke with my daughter the other day. After about 20 minutes of chatting. She finally said that I think way too much. She also reminded me that I should not let what one person said to me get under my skin. She said, ‘Who cares what they said? Who cares what they think?’ She is correct.
I’ve decided that it is OK to think about things. We have got to do it to survive. We just don’t have to play out scenarios that may or may not happen. Instead of trying to force situations, go with the flow. Stay at a higher rate of vibration, be positive, look at the bright side, etc.
It’s an inside job. Sometimes we all could use a little reminder of that.
Thought provoking quotes:
“Spend eighty percent of your time focusing on the opportunities of tomorrow rather than the problems of yesterday” – Brian Tracy
“Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis. It's important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.”
― Robert Herjavec, The Will To Win: Leading, Competing, Succeeding
Peace, Joy, Love, Light
Trust me – that’s a loaded statement. Who do you trust in this world? I am hoping that you trust your significant other and close friends, friends you have had forever. They are to be trusted.
When you look at fringe friends, do you feel that you can tell them anything? We all know by now that it is best to be selective as to what we tell people.
I have setup so-called friends – told them information to see where it comes out again. Remember the telephone game? You whisper something into one person’s ear, the information continues from one person to the next and then the last person speaks the information.
One really must pay attention to their intuition about people. People show up in your life, somehow mix into your life and then boom! Or maybe the other shoe never drops. It’s a crapshoot.
Has this every happened to you? I shared with a friend recently about some concerns. I do believe she said something to another person about them, and the telephone game was on. I battled back and forth for hours as to whether I should say something to her about it or not. In the end, I chose not to say anything, which is completely unlike me. Lesson learned.
I am so easy to forgive others because I do realize we are all on our Spiritual paths. Trust me, I do get upset about some situations. I cool down and let them go.
The key point here is to not get caught up in what someone did to you. It is not always the easiest to do – taking the high road. Learn from the experience and move on. Spirit always brings situations around again and again to be sure you learned or healed.
Every now and again look at the people who are around you. Do a little housecleaning on occasion. Trust your instincts. Never let anyone tell you that your intuition is off.
Peace, Joy, Love and Light
Some people are magic, pure magic.
The other day I walked down to the Cassadaga Spiritualist Camp Bookstore with another medium. We put our names on the whiteboard to let people know we were available for walk-in readings for the day.
On the way out, she wanted to stop to buy some crackers out of the vending machine. I waited alongside of her. She put two quarters in. I saw it. The crackers moved but got stuck. I tried to shake the machine a bit and so did she. I wondered if there was money where the change dispensed. She said, ‘Wait a minute, the money didn’t go through.’ I’m like what? ‘The crackers moved and got stuck. The money did go through.’ She went to where the change would be, pulled out two quarters and proceeded to get her crackers. What hoot! If that is not magic, I do not know what is?
I received ‘goodwill’ magic the other day when a client came for a reading. She had the coolest gold and blue, dangling earrings on. One has Saturn surrounded by a gold circle hoop and at the end of the gold chain a star. The other one starts with a star and at the end of the gold chain a star and a sliver of a moon in a solid circle. I said, ‘I love your earrings. They remind me of my tattoo.’ We laughed. She thanked me and we settled in for the reading. At the end of the reading, I said, ‘I hope you enjoyed the reading.’ She thanked me again and proceeded to give me her earrings. I could not believe it. I tried to give them back. Isn’t that what we givers do? We have a hard time receiving at times.
Givers put yourself in situations to receive. It will keep the balance.
Spirit is always right on time. While writing this blog, I have been speaking with a friend through private messenger. She updated me on her loved one’s health and that she had been handling it on her own for quite some time. I was able to remind her that it is OK to receive. Of course, she knows this. But sometimes, we givers, need a little nudge to be reminded.
Magic is everywhere! We are living on a planet in the middle of a solar system.
Blessings of Peace, Joy, Love and Light
I’m not a big one for New Year resolutions. More times than not it’s a setup for not accomplishing something. I have made big promises for the new year in the past – lose weight, quit smoking, stop the doormat syndrome – not to be achieved.
When you decide to do something, do you wait for the new year to put it in motion? No, no you do not. At least, I do not. I have been known to say, ‘Monday is the best day to start.’ And for me it is. I finally lost the weight and quit smoking many years ago, all to be started on a Monday.
Backstory: A friend and I have been trying to make the effort to start walking later in the day. We spoke about it a couple of times and really made the push to start last week. It turned out we had other tasks to accomplish and for a couple of days the weather kept us in. She suggested we start on Monday and I agreed. I wondered if she has the same mindset as I.
One thing that really bugs me is when people are not respectful when I voice an opinion about something. It’s always a one-upmanship – this is the better way because I know more than you and therefore you do not know anything.
When I calm down and look a little deeper, I realize that it is not me, but where these people live. I can either rise above it, in which I am a forgiving person and normally let these types of things go, or I can remove myself from the situation.
Of course, this gives me the opportunity to look at the changes I can make in my life and then implement them, regardless of when it is – the new year or a Monday. However, it is best to set yourself up for success, do whatever it takes to make the change.
Happy New Year!
Peace, Joy, Love and Light
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.