Do or Don't?
Expectations. Ouch, right? And on so many levels.
I feel like sometimes people expect way too much from me. I do care and want to help, but when is enough? I’m sure some of you feel the same way. We do and we do and we do. And when we don’t, we feel like we should’ve and now feel guilty because we didn’t. Raise your hands – who else feels this way?
The funny part is maybe we’re putting too much pressure on ourselves. When we don’t do, does anyone notice? Maybe, maybe not. It depends on the situation.
And then when we’re doers, we expect others to do as we do. When they don’t, our expectations are not met. The cycle continues until finally, you put a stop to it. Is that possible?
I have a lot questions tonight and only hope that someone will answer them. There’s that expectation. Ugh. Perhaps, my spirit guides will assist me with answers. It’s funny because I already have the answers, and so do you.
If we don’t do then what? Is there a fear of not being accepted because we put our foot down? Fear because someone won’t love us as much if we don’t do, or maybe people are just too busy with their own lives to even notice.
I expect too much from myself. I’ve always been a go-getter. If I see something that needs to be done, I do it or find the means to make it happen.
Now that I think about it I have been accused of being perfect. Not just by one person, but by two. Isn’t that funny? I am far from it. Maybe, I seem perfect to those who don’t do, or do not have the mindset to do.
My brain, it just never turns off. I wonder sometimes how I sleep. LOL.
Ideas float in like water runs down the stream. I see what needs to be done to accomplish goals. I’m quick minded. It seems I drive people a little crazy because they can never seem to catch up, or get on the same page. Solutions come easy to me, but not so easy to others. They don’t see the picture like I do. Does this sound familiar?
What does a person do? They keep doing. Or maybe it’s time to stop and take a look at what really is important in your life and go from there. Do what’s best for you. Don’t worry about it. In fact, guilt, fear and worry are lower vibrations. Do what’s best for you and the rest will fall into place.
Really, I think I need a vacation.
Every once in a while check in with yourself. Go ahead it’s not that hard. Just do it. LOL.
Blessings of Peace and Love!
Find Your Reality Within
Once in a while I stick my big toe into the pond of “reality” and I have to say it’s not always pleasant. Let’s not forget where I reside: Cassadaga Spiritualist Camp, a quiet little town nestled a few miles from I-4 in Volusia County – think Mayberry.
Reality – baseball playoffs, gotta love it. I’ve been so excited for the Yankees. Remember, I don’t watch television, so I decided to search things out a bit on the Net when the team was not its usual self. I found stories about the Astros whistling and making a rumbling noise from the dugout, thought to be a way to communicate about the next pitch coming. And then I read how the team has been accused of sign-stealing through the last couple of years. I’m like really? If this happened to be the Yankees or the Patriots, there would be an inquisition. LOL. You know it’s true. I do have to admit I kinda bought into all the hype for a bit. I posted a couple of lines to my personal Facebook status.
Backstory: My reality when I was say 12 years old watching sports – baseball, basketball, football, hockey, golf and boxing – was always emotionally charged. As I grew older, I saw blown play calling, one-sided commentaries both during the game and postgame reporting. I used to get so mad and angry. I decided at one point that it’s organized sports and stopped watching so much.
This time around I didn’t get mad like that 12-year-old girl. This time I said Karma. It’s all about Karma. In Hinduism and Buddhism, Karma is the ‘sum of a person’s actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences,’ or another: ‘destiny or fate, following as effect from cause.’
In Spiritualism, some believe in reincarnation and others do not. I do. I’ve had one person tell me of a previous life that rang true to me. I’ve had dreams and meditations of past lives. Have you ever been to a city or another county and know, just know that you’ve been there before?
There’s so much more to this world than meets the eye. I’d rather live in my little bubble of the world than worry about who’s going to win the next game, or the next election. Who really cares? Is that a bad thing? I focus on raising my vibration to assist humankind. I know I may have to leave my bubble more for this to happen. It’s OK because I’m always working to be centered, mindful no matter what occurs. Not an easy feat, but worth it. The struggle is real.
Honestly, this reality reminds me of what is depicted in the book, “The Blue Island.” When we leave this existence, we continue on to a blue island, where there are schools to learn anything we want. I guess I learned sports as much as I want to; and learned covering local politics as much as I want to. The book and this reality doesn’t seem so different, just on another playing field.
The good news is we get to choose to some extent. Here’s a question for you, is it destiny or free will? I believe both. Yes, we make sacred contracts with others before we come down to this plane, but they can be broken. I believe we all come here with a life purpose and we have free will as to how we arrive.
Blessings of Peace and Love!
Own Your Personal Space!
I love working out at the gym. I do it four days a week. Each morning I spend about 2 hours there. I mind my own business – taking full advantage of my personal space. Yes, I say good morning to people, but would prefer to be left alone. It’s my time.
And so the other morning I had just started my ab workout. Trust me when I say I work it hard. This is not social hour(s) for me. I’m on the mat on my back and some man comes into my space and says, ‘It’s not that easy is it?’ In my mind I thought, ‘I’ve been working out for 30 years.’ I just kept going, doing my best to ignore it. Two women were in the area too. When I finished, I asked if they heard that man. They said they did not, but suggested that perhaps he was trying to hit on me. The thought never occurred to me. I’m like really look at me. We laughed at the whole scenario.
Still a few days before that an older man decided he had the right to put his hand on my back and tell me what to do. I kept me cool. I’m sure he got the jest of not doing that again. I tried to be nice.
Why is it that some men think they have the right to dictate to women, that they know best? In one instance, the man was older, so I get it. It’s generational. But a younger man. Stop.
It’s really crazy that I care enough to write about it. It’s not who I am. I’ve never really had a viewpoint about that subject. My thought is we're all human beings having this experience. If it something doesn't jive with me, I move on. My biggest concern is stay out of my space – man or woman – unless I invite you in.
This is a big lesson for all of us. Create your personal space; set boundaries, and make sure people abide by them. It’s the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. If there are people in your life who are not there for your highest and best, let them go.
Remove phone numbers, Facebook contacts, etc. Finally, meditate, see the etheric cord that connects you and that person, visualize a scissors and see it cut that cord. Send their energy from you back to them and ask for your cleansed energy to come back to you from them. It should take care of the situation the first time. If not, repeat. End of that story.
Yes, sometimes there are instances that occur like the two men at the gym. You really have no control over what other people do. Now that I think about it, it’s probably best that I was doing my ab workout and not standing. I can sometimes be a little grumpy that early.
Set personal boundaries!
Blessings of peace and love!
Go with the Flow!
I’ve been in my space for more than two years. It’s the third year I’ve gotten the notice from one of the groundskeepers that an inspector is coming to check fire extinguishers. We are to put them outside near our doors. We laughed because last year we looked for the fire extinguisher everywhere in my place and we couldn’t find it. He said he would get me a new one. He dropped it by a few days later. Not but a week later the fire extinguisher we were looking for initially appeared hanging on the kitchen wall. I made that groundskeeper come and see it. He did, and refused to come into my apartment for months because there was no way we could’ve missed it. There was no way that was there before. So again, we laughed about it. LOL
I still have happenings (unexplained phenomena) occurring in my place. I’ve noticed most recently that a couple of my crystals moved on my dresser. I have proof because every time I dust I take photos. LOL. I have become a bit nonchalant about it.
However, I was surprised this week when one of my appointments showed up with a gift. Now mind you I have never physically met this woman. She explained that she had ordered a T-shirt with sayings on it such as ‘completely unexplainable,’ ‘professional at lie detecting,’ and ‘can offend you with their honesty.’ Her name ‘Rhoda’ was supposed to be at the top of shirt. When she received it in the mail, the name ‘Lori’ was on it. She kept it for three weeks and thought to take it Goodwill and then one time tried to give it to another Lori, only to find she spelled her name differently. Finally, she realized before she came for the appointment that it was mine. I was totally blown away, as was she. How cosmic, right? Turned out she’s a writer too with similar life path situations. I do so love being a medium.
I’m teaching my last advanced mediumship class Sunday, and it dawned on me, is everyone meditating out there? It’s a must to grow spiritually and to grow your gifts.
Did I mention I’m exhausted? Being the chairperson of the public relations committee in the Spiritualist Camp keeps me busy. Plus, I’m helping out with Gala Day, which is Nov. 16. Good times!
Going with the flow!
Peace and Love!
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.