I love working out at the gym. I do it four days a week. Each morning I spend about 2 hours there. I mind my own business – taking full advantage of my personal space. Yes, I say good morning to people, but would prefer to be left alone. It’s my time.
And so the other morning I had just started my ab workout. Trust me when I say I work it hard. This is not social hour(s) for me. I’m on the mat on my back and some man comes into my space and says, ‘It’s not that easy is it?’ In my mind I thought, ‘I’ve been working out for 30 years.’ I just kept going, doing my best to ignore it. Two women were in the area too. When I finished, I asked if they heard that man. They said they did not, but suggested that perhaps he was trying to hit on me. The thought never occurred to me. I’m like really look at me. We laughed at the whole scenario.
Still a few days before that an older man decided he had the right to put his hand on my back and tell me what to do. I kept me cool. I’m sure he got the jest of not doing that again. I tried to be nice.
Why is it that some men think they have the right to dictate to women, that they know best? In one instance, the man was older, so I get it. It’s generational. But a younger man. Stop.
It’s really crazy that I care enough to write about it. It’s not who I am. I’ve never really had a viewpoint about that subject. My thought is we're all human beings having this experience. If it something doesn't jive with me, I move on. My biggest concern is stay out of my space – man or woman – unless I invite you in.
This is a big lesson for all of us. Create your personal space; set boundaries, and make sure people abide by them. It’s the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. If there are people in your life who are not there for your highest and best, let them go.
Remove phone numbers, Facebook contacts, etc. Finally, meditate, see the etheric cord that connects you and that person, visualize a scissors and see it cut that cord. Send their energy from you back to them and ask for your cleansed energy to come back to you from them. It should take care of the situation the first time. If not, repeat. End of that story.
Yes, sometimes there are instances that occur like the two men at the gym. You really have no control over what other people do. Now that I think about it, it’s probably best that I was doing my ab workout and not standing. I can sometimes be a little grumpy that early.
Set personal boundaries!
Blessings of peace and love!
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.