For days, I have been hearing these lyrics in my head: ‘I want something else, to get me through this.’ I finally looked it up. Some of you may know the song titled, ‘Semi-Charmed Life’ by Third Eye Blind. I really had no idea what the lyrics were about until I looked it up. It’s about taking heroin of which I have not done and will do my best to continue that. I never claim never. I did one time when I quit smoking and went back. The struggle was real. It’s been 15 years since I’ve had a cigarette.
I know I’ve talked about this many times – stand your ground. Speak your truth even if you stand alone. Regardless, if you speak with passion or quietly, some people do not want to hear it. It’s OK to live in your own little world. I do at times. The thing is if the people around you are your tribe, they will allow you to speak your truth and thank you for it. Some may try to punish you for it because of their own life circumstances. These people are not your tribe. If speaking your truth upsets your tribe – good. Perhaps, you are there to cause change. Perhaps, they will hear, comprehend and move forward. It’s OK to disagree with others. It is not OK to disagree with others and abuse them.
I’d rather have someone come to my face to say something less than to me. At least I know how this person feels about me or a situation. We can work together to resolve the relationship or situation. When people voice their thoughts in a safe environment, relationships thrive. On the other hand, talking negatively behind people’s backs, continues the negative energy. Trust me when I say, I have done the latter and I am moving on from that.
There are a couple of women who talk down to me, act like they know more than me, act like I’m not worthy enough to walk in the same space as them, unless of course, they want something from me. I am done with that. I have decided the next time either of them speaks to me that way I am going to tell them that I do not like their tone and request that they change it the next time. They will either respect what I am requesting, or I will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are not my tribe.
When you make positive changes in your life for YOUR life, do not go back. Some people around you may not like your changes because they knew how to communicate with the ‘old you.’ Keep evolving whether you are amongst your soul tribe or not. Eventually, you will find what you are looking for.
Finally, be a warrior by getting out of your head and moving forward. You are perfect just the way you are. Yes, be nice to people. Help others – everyone’s life purpose as far as I’m concerned. Do not be a doormat for anyone.
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.