The last few weeks have not been easy and it’s OK. It’s how we grow. I know I have spoken about this many times in my blog and elsewhere. When you finally decide to create appropriate boundaries, people will bulk.
They want you the way you once were. It’s not because they don’t want you to grow; it’s because they are used to dealing with you in a certain way. They don’t want to change. It can get a little dicey. You want to grow and change; others want the same old you. They want to keep you in a nice tidy box. The way they want you.
It’s not always about saying No. When I say no to something, I feel I must explain why, maybe it’s because I’m a writer, or maybe it’s because of childhood memories – toe the line and everything will be fine.
When you finally do put up appropriate boundaries, stick to them. I know it’s easy to fall back into who you once were, especially when sometimes it’s easier for yourself to just let it be. It can be exasperating at times, don’t give up. Put your old self to rest and keep it there, a death of sorts.
Speaking of death, I am the speaker at Colby Memorial Temple Sunday and my topic is death and what happens to us after we leave the earth plane. Death is not to be feared but celebrated. It’s not easy tho. I still miss my dad and it’s been nearly 16 years. I still miss my friend, master teacher, business partner. It will be four years next month. We forget that we can talk to our loved ones anytime, although it's not the same as physical contact.
Death of the old you are sometimes needed to evolve. I say sometimes because the person may have already evolved to his/her highest pinnacle. It’s what we should all be striving to reach. Keep on keeping on.
Blessings of Peace and Love!
P.S. Sunday service is live streamed: https://www.youtube.com/c/SouthernCassadagaSpiritualistCamp and https://www.facebook.com/cassadagaspiritualistcamp
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.