The other day I saw an armadillo. In Native-American medicine, the armadillo is about boundaries, setting appropriate boundaries. It’s not the easiest thing to do, especially when you just wanna get along and help others.
The issue is not everyone wants to get along. They live for drama; they stir the pot, or just want you to fit in a box that works for them. I can’t have that in my life anymore. I finally had enough of people’s behavior toward me, so I’m in the process of setting appropriate boundaries, which takes courage.
People don’t like it when you change because now, they must change their ways. Most people do not like change. Change is constant. Do what’s best for you. You must take care of yourself.
Backstory: It’s been a hot summer and since l slimmed down some, I’m fitting nicely into summer dresses. Someone felt it appropriate to let me know that my dresses were too short and that I should wear pants under them. They are at my knee, and one is a ¼ of an inch above my knee. I stood my ground and said that they were appropriate and pointed out others who wore shorter attire. Later in the day this person took a public swipe at me, which I did not allow. I stood my ground.
My boundaries are now set with this person and others because news carries quickly. Trust me when I say it took courage. I have plenty.
Back, backstory: When I worked as a staff writer at a newspaper, I covered city and county meetings. I learned a certain amount of courage when I walked to the press table, which was normally up front between those running the meeting and those who had business on the agenda. There’s no cowering there. You gotta own it!
The below came up on my Facebook timeline as memories:
‘Keep hanging out with yourself until you are you again’ – unknown
‘Sweet girl, it wasn’t that you weren’t enough, it’s your energy . . .it asks others to rise-up, and not everyone is willing to go where they would grow’ – butterflies rising
‘Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes’ – William Gibson
Sometimes being reminded of who we are is the kick-start we need to make change. Find the courage to be you!
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.