My first career was in the hospitality business. I was a server for many years and then a bartender. Yeah, I dabbled in management, more money and less responsibility in the former areas. I think fondly of others in the business, most working for tips. I always tip well even if the service wasn’t quite up to par.
It can be tough business. I’ve had people stick my finger in their cold rare prime rib; a woman once caught her nails on fire and dipped her fingertips in the water glass at a fine dining restaurant. That was a sight.
The other day I had a reading with a woman who gave me a $35 tip. I was surprised. She confirmed that she worked as a server earlier in the reading and knew what it was like to work for tips. I thanked her and thought ‘what goes around, comes around.’ Yes, I’m using that phrase in the positive. I thought it interesting that the Internet and probably most of humanity does not. It’s a mindset.
Even before I realized I was on my spiritual path, I was a fair tipper.
Backstory: My parents, from the North, only tipped 10 percent on bills. I used to go back and add money and finally I said you pay the bill I will tip the server. It worked.
We truly must be mindful of other people’s feelings. It can be hard at times when we, ourselves, have so much going on in life. Before decisions are made, they should be thought out from all angles. Being mindful of others and their feelings is imperative to live peacefully, in harmony.
Funny thing happened earlier this week, a little thing called synchronicity. I was working on an article about a woman who was chosen as one out of 50 mixologists heading on to the next round of competition for bartender of the year. Come to find out there’s an element of storytelling around the crafted cocktail that is chosen. Don’t you love how that just came around? Is that a double synchronicity?
Here’s the final word this time around: It’s OK to express yourself as long as it’s in a mindful manner. Mind you – you cannot control how people perceive your expressions. Keep your cards close to your chest and do your best to be mindful.
I feel like I had two or three writing guides coming in to assist with writing this. Pretty wild.
There’s always hope, remember that!
Lori Carter is a freelance writer and Spiritualist Medium -- truly a Spiritual Being, and aren't we all.